Crying! The very things that makes teaching your baby to sleep independently so very challenging!
No mother likes or wants to hear or do things that make their little ones cry however when it comes to teaching our little ones to sleep more and more independently dealing with tears makes the entire process stressful and challenging for all concerned.
Even the gentlest of sleep training methods can sometimes involve tears and whilst I wouldn't
encourage mums or parents to leave their babies to cry alone, avoiding tears altogther during the sleep training process is almost impossible....
So what do you do when your trying to teach your baby new skills like self settling but tears of protest ensue?
Check out my short video below 4 Things you can do to help your little one when they cry during the sleep training process
Reframe your thoughts on crying - Crying doesnt mean you've failed in your attempts ( although it will feel that way ) it's just their way of communicating to you.
Listen & Interpret - Before rushing to stop the tears stop and have a listen. What is your baby communicating with their tears? Bare in mind that your baby is going to be tired and probably frustrated as well so this alone could be the reason for the tears. If the cry increasing in intensity or decreasing as you soothe your baby.
Respond to the communication - Always respond if your baby needs you but that doesnt always mean doing things to just stop the tears, find ways to soothe your baby without giving in to what they want. They want you to go back the the familiar way of settling to sleep but perhaps what they need learn how to fall asleep in a new way. They always need you to respond and be there with them so dont feel like you have to leave them to cry alone.
If everything is getting too stressy and tense - Calm and soothe your little one anyway you can till they calm or fall asleep if the new technique gets too distressing abandon and attempt at the next nap, this doesnt mean you have failed in your attempts. try again at the next nap and keep trying consisently for at least 7-10 days before deciding to stop and try another method. Think of learning to self settle as learning to walk. sometimes you'll take several steps and fall, sometimes you'll take 1 step and fall over but what matters is that you keep attemping to take steps. until eventually your walking or sleeping.
If you are reading this because you have a baby or toddler who your struggling to get to sleep here are a few ways i can help you get more sleep, whenever you're ready.
1. You can join my community over on Facebook for sleep deprived mums wanting more gentle and respectful soultions to their babies sleep problems. Connect with me there and other mums who share your mission for more sleep using more gentle and child focussed methods. I created it to be space for commeraderies, support, inspiration or even just a safe space to come and have a good old whinge when sleep deprivation is kicking your butt! To join us over on FB Click Here!
2. If your thinking about maybe sleep training your baby i have a free baby sleep class that can help you decide on how to sleep train your baby or toddler and 7 Key points to think about before you sleep train so that when you do start you see success quickly and with as little stress as possible. To access that free training Click Here....but hurry as i will be taking that free training down very soon
3. You can work with me privately to help get you and your baby or toddler sleeping through the night. We can work together and plan a sleep solution speciifically for you and your family and have me hold your hand, offerif emotional support and accountability to help you confidently shape ho your baby or toddler sleeps To book a session with me click here to select a package that suits you and book our sessions together or email me for a free discovery call where we can chat and see if working together is a good fit for both of us!!