....But You Still Want To Encourage Positive Sleep Habits
I’m often asked what parents can do to improve sleep if they’re babies are too young to sleep train or if parents decide they don’t want to sleep train but do want to make sure that they encourage more independent sleep habits. I recommend two things you can do to help your baby progress on the journey to sleeping more independently and eventually through the night.
What’s not a big deal to us grown ups can be a huge deal with our toddlers, emotions and feelings that are new or overwhelming for our little ones can be a reason why they sometimes struggle to fall asleep or getting back to sleep when our little ones wake up!<blog_break>
At times when our little ones are having a meltdown or tantrum try to remember (I know this is easier said than done) that a tantrum is really your little ones struggling to deal with something and that sometimes they need our help to deal and cope with those feelings.
It doesn’t mean giving them what they think they want, Sometimes it’s just acknowledging to them what they are feeling and allowing them to space to feel it and then calm down from it.
It’s really really easy, when sleep deprived to react impulsively when your toddlers kicking off, but remembering that meltdowns and tantrums are just your child’s way of communicating to you.
A tantrum is their way of saying “ I can’t deal with this can you help me with it”. That doesn’t mean doing whatever necessary to stop the tantrum & tears, it can mean just acknowledging what he or she is feeling and allowing them to feel it in that moment.
Kids will sometimes have tantrums because you’ve put boundaries in place, they don’t like those boundaries and are mad about it, does that mean you allow them to push those limits because you don’t want them to be angry? Anger is an emotion like any other and at some point in life it’s an emotion that they will experience. It’s ok to be mad or angry. It’s a normal emotion and a learning opportunity for your toddler. They can be angry and they can calm down from it if you show them how, but they won’t learn how to deal with anger and other negative emotions if we don’t allow them to feel them, develop an understanding of them and learn how to calm down. Our little ones rarely listen to what we say but they do pay attention to how we behave.
Its our job to calm the chaos not join in with it!
Do you have any tips for dealing with toddler tantrums and meltdowns? Share with us what works for you in the comments.
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It can be really hard to change how your baby sleeps when you’re not sure how, are probably chronically sleep deprived, lacking in confidence and probably in patience too. Changing another person’s habits, never mind those of your baby can be tough but changing your own sleep habits so your better able to cope with sleep deprivation in the short term is much easier! â