I've been asked this question a lot recently ( in various guises) What to do when your toddler refuese to sleep alone or to settle to sleep without you. Its particularly frustrating when previously your toddler would go to sleep with ease and minimal fuss but now insist you stay with them.
You don't have to leave them to cry ( At all) here are 2 gentle methods you can use at bed time
Crying! The very things that makes teaching your baby to sleep independently so very challenging!
No mother likes or wants to hear or do things that make their little ones cry however when it comes to teaching our little ones to sleep more and more independently dealing with tears makes the entire process stressful and challenging for all concerned.
....But You Still Want To Encourage Positive Sleep Habits
I’m often asked what parents can do to improve sleep if they’re babies are too young to sleep train or if parents decide they don’t want to sleep train but do want to make sure that they encourage more independent sleep habits. I recommend two things you can do to help your baby progress on the journey to sleeping more independently and eventually through the night.
What’s not a big deal to us grown ups can be a huge deal with our toddlers, emotions and feelings that are new or overwhelming for our little ones can be a reason why they sometimes struggle to fall asleep or getting back to sleep when our little ones wake up!<blog_break>
At times when our little ones are having a meltdown or tantrum try to remember (I know this is easier said than done) that a tantrum is really your little ones struggling to deal with something and that sometimes they need our help to deal and cope with those feelings.
It doesn’t mean giving them what they think they want, Sometimes it’s just acknowledging to them what they are feeling and allowing them to space to feel it and then calm down from it.
It’s really really easy, when sleep deprived to react impulsively when your toddlers kicking off, but remembering that meltdowns and tantrums are just your child’s way of communicating to you.
A tantrum is their way of saying “ I can’t deal with this can you help me with it”. That doesn’t mean doing whatever necessary to stop the tantrum & tears, it can mean just acknowledging what he or she is feeling and allowing them to feel it in that moment.
Kids will sometimes have tantrums because you’ve put boundaries in place, they don’t like those boundaries and are mad about it, does that mean you allow them to push those limits because you don’t want them to be angry? Anger is an emotion like any other and at some point in life it’s an emotion that they will experience. It’s ok to be mad or angry. It’s a normal emotion and a learning opportunity for your toddler. They can be angry and they can calm down from it if you show them how, but they won’t learn how to deal with anger and other negative emotions if we don’t allow them to feel them, develop an understanding of them and learn how to calm down. Our little ones rarely listen to what we say but they do pay attention to how we behave.
Its our job to calm the chaos not join in with it!
Do you have any tips for dealing with toddler tantrums and meltdowns? Share with us what works for you in the comments.
Having a toddler who refuses to sleep can be super challenging. Finding solutions for toddler sleep that are gentle and evidence based can be even more challenging....until now. I've worked with families with children under 2 for nearly 20 years both day & night. I created this e-book with 10 of my top tips to help you get your toddler or preschooler sleeping again. You can download it to your Kindle or Smartphone or tablet, and carry out the tips of your choice right away!! Click here to download your toddler sleep e-book for FREE right here click here ( or click the pic!)
It can be really hard to change how your baby sleeps when you’re not sure how, are probably chronically sleep deprived, lacking in confidence and probably in patience too. Changing another person’s habits, never mind those of your baby can be tough but changing your own sleep habits so your better able to cope with sleep deprivation in the short term is much easier! â
Hello Mummies, My collegaue and friend Stephanie is a fabulous night nanny like me and an Infant feeding Specialist. She has some tips for mums who are concerned about breastfeeding and wether they should supplement their babies with water during heat waves and the recent warm weather.
Her details are below if you ever need support with breastfeeding or night work too!
( She is amazing and whom i always go to when i have a client in need of breasfeeding support! )
If you are reading this because you have a baby or toddler who your struggling to get to sleep here are a few ways i can help you get more sleep, whenever you're ready.
1. You can join my community over on Facebook for sleep deprived mums wanting more gentle and respectful soultions to their babies sleep problems. Connect with me there and other mums who share your mission for more sleep using more gentle and child focussed methods. I created it to be space for commeraderies, support, inspiration or even just a safe space to come and have a good old whinge when sleep deprivation is kicking your butt! To join us over on FB Click Here!
2. If your thinking about maybe sleep training your baby i have a free baby sleep class that can help you decide on how to sleep train your baby or toddler and 7 Key points to think about before you sleep train so that when you do start you see success quickly and with as little stress as possible. To access that free training Click Here....but hurry as i will be taking that free training down very soon
3. You can work with me privately to help get you and your baby or toddler sleeping through the night. We can work together and plan a sleep solution speciifically for you and your family and have me hold your hand, offerif emotional support and accountability to help you confidently shape ho your baby or toddler sleeps To book a session with me click here to select a package that suits you and book our sessions together or email me for a free discovery call where we can chat and see if working together is a good fit for both of us!!